Ways to be a better parent
Get Stuck in a Rut
. Children thrive on routines. Rituals and routines provide them with a sense of identity, stability, and consistency as they strive to figure out their roles, relationships, responsibilities, and even their own personalities. Routines also help them understand the importance of setting limits. Involve your children in organizing your familys daily schedule, such as setting regular times for meals, homework, cleanup, leisure time, and bedtime.
Gross Them Out
. How the human body functions is often a mystery to kids. Take time to explain how the body works when its healthy and what happens when it breaks down. For example, explain the short-term and long-term effects of taking care of their health and of overindulging or neglecting it. By providing kids with this information, theyll be more aware of the specific benefits and consequences their actions have on their bodies.
. Parents play an essential role in building their childrens communication skills. Thats why its important to ask plenty of questions and listen with interest, attention, and patience. It often takes kids longer than adults to express themselves. Skip the yes or no questions. Ask questions that require explanation or description. Listen for details that may be missing and ask for clarification. This allows you to keep tabs on what your kids are thinking, feeling, and doing, which is crucial in keeping them safe, healthy, and out of trouble.
. Children learn by observing and imitating behavior, especially yours. Be a day-to-day example of how you want your child to behave. Studies show that parents with the healthiest lifestyles raise the healthiest children who in turn grow up to be healthier adults.
Crack Them Up
. Life can get crazy and stressful for kids; laughing can help them cope. Encourage generous amounts of giggling and silliness in your home, and help kids see the humor in everyday events and mishaps. This will help them learn to put things in perspective and better handle the constant stresses of daily life. Laughter will be medicine that kids can carry with them for years to come.
Bond with Them
. Almost all interactions in a childs life are influenced by family relationships. Kids who have close connections with parents, grandparents, siblings, and other relatives are more likely to initiate social interaction with other kids and with other adults, and are likely to be more confident in all relationships. Also, kids with positive family relationships generally struggle less with depression and peer pressure and have higher self-esteem.
. Regular physical activity develops and strengthens childrens bodies and brains. Plus, its the best way to prevent weight gain and potentially fatal diseases, such as heart disease, cancer, and stroke. Encourage your kids to be active by regularly engaging them in games and activities that get the blood pumping. Chase them and let them chase you around the yard in a game of tag. Play toss, kickball, or hide-and-seek. Take hikes together in the woods or around the neighborhood.
. Although no parent wants to be a nag, kids need guidance and gentle reminders about rules, limits, and appropriate behaviors. Steering kids toward healthy habits, and reinforcing those habits along the way, will teach them the principles of moderation, discretion, consistency, and self-discipline. Over time, and with your help, kids will develop their own sense of self-control and self-regulation, which will allow them to set healthy limits for themselves.
Put Them to Work
. Research shows that involving kids in chores and projects around the house is one of the best ways to build self-esteem and help kids feel competent. Doing so lets them know that you believe theyre capable of handling important tasks, which is an incredibly powerful message for kids. Children who grow up perceiving chores as a normal part of life are more likely to complete their education, get a good start on a career, develop successful relationships, and avoid risky behaviors. These 9 ways to be a better parent may sound simple, but research shows that, when combined, they can help your sons and daughters grow in body, mind, and spirit.
. Children crave limits, which help them understand and manage an often confusing world. Show your love by setting boundaries so your kids can explore and discover their passions safely.
Dont clip your childs wings
. Your toddlers mission in life is to gain independence. So when shes developmentally capable of putting her toys away, clearing her plate from the table, and dressing herself, let her. Giving a child responsibility is good for her self-esteem (and your sanity!).
Dont try to fix everything
. Give young kids a chance to find their own solutions. When you lovingly acknowledge a childs minor frustrations without immediately rushing in to save her, you teach her self-reliance and resilience.
Remember that discipline is not punishment
. Enforcing limits is really about teaching kids how to behave in the world and helping them to become competent, caring, and in control.
Pick your battles
. Kids cant absorb too many rules without turning off completely. Forget arguing about little stuff like fashion choices and occasional potty language. Focus on the things that really matter that means no hitting, rude talk, or lying.
Play with your children
. Let them choose the activity, and dont worry about rules. Just go with the flow and have fun. Thats the name of the game.
Read books together every day
. Get started when hes a newborn; babies love listening to the sound of their parents voices. Cuddling up with your child and a book is a great bonding experience that will set him up for a lifetime of reading.
Schedule daily special time
. Let your child choose an activity where you hang out together for 10 or 15 minutes with no interruptions. Theres no better way for you to show your love.
Encourage daddy time
. The greatest untapped resource available for improving the lives of our children is time with Dad early and often. Kids with engaged fathers do better in school, problem-solve more successfully, and generally cope better with whatever life throws at them.
Make warm memories
. Your children will probably not remember anything that you say to them, but they will recall the family rituals like bedtimes and game night that you do together.
Be the role model your children deserve
. Kids learn by watching their parents. Modeling appropriate, respectful, good behavior works much better than telling them what to do.
Fess up when you blow it
. This is the best way to show your child how and when she should apologize.
Live a little greener
. Show your kids how easy it is to care for the environment. Waste less, recycle, reuse, and conserve each day. Spend an afternoon picking up trash around the neighborhood.
Always tell the truth
. Its how you want your child to behave, right?
Kiss and hug your spouse in front of the kids
. Your marriage is the only example your child has of what an intimate relationship looks, feels, and sounds like. So its your job to set a great standard.
Respect parenting differences
. upport your spouses basic approach to raising kids unless its way out of line. Criticizing or arguing with your partner will do more harm to your marriage and your childs sense of security than if you accept standards that are different from your own.
Give appropriate praise
. Instead of simply saying, Youre great, try to be specific about what your child did to deserve the positive feedback. You might say, Waiting until I was off the phone to ask for cookies was hard, and I really liked your patience.
Cheer the good stuff
. When you notice your child doing something helpful or nice, let him know how you feel. Its a great way to reinforce good behavior so hes more likely to keep doing it.
Gossip about your kids
. Fact: What we overhear is far more potent than what we are told directly. Make praise more effective by letting your child catch you whispering a compliment about him to Grandma, Dad, or even his teddy.
Give yourself a break
. Hitting the drive-through when youre too tired to cook doesnt make you a bad parent.
Trust your mommy gut
. No one knows your child better than you. Follow your instincts when it comes to his health and well-being. If you think somethings wrong, chances are youre right.
Just say No
. Resist the urge to take on extra obligations at the office or become the Volunteer Queen at your childs school. You will never, ever regret spending more time with your children.
Dont accept disrespect from your child
. Never allow her to be rude or say hurtful things to you or anyone else. If she does, tell her firmly that you will not tolerate any form of disrespect.
Pass along your plan
. Mobilize the other caregivers in your childs life your spouse, grandparents, daycare worker, babysitter to help reinforce the values and the behavior you want to instill. This includes everything from saying thank you and being kind to not whining.
Ask your children three you questions every day
. The art of conversation is an important social skill, but parents often neglect to teach it. Get a kid going with questions like, Did you have fun at school?; What did you do at the party you went to?; or Where do you want to go tomorrow afternoon?
Teach kids this bravery trick
. Tell them to always notice the color of a persons eyes. Making eye contact will help a hesitant child appear more confident and will help any kid to be more assertive and less likely to be picked on.
Acknowledge your kids strong emotions
. When your childs meltdown is over, ask him, How did that feel? and What do you think would make it better? Then listen to him. Hell recover from a tantrum more easily if you let him talk it out.
Show your child how to become a responsible citizen
. Find ways to help others all year. Kids gain a sense of self-worth by volunteering in the community.
Dont raise a spoiled kid
. Keep this thought in mind: Every child is a treasure, but no child is the center of the universe. Teach him accordingly.
Talk about what it means to be a good person
. Start early: When you read bedtime stories, for example, ask your toddler whether characters are being mean or nice and explore why.
Explain to your kids why values are important
. The simple answer: When youre kind, generous, honest, and respectful, you make the people around you feel good. More important, you feel good about yourself.
Set up a gratitude circle every night at dinner
. Go around the table and take turns talking about the various people who were generous and kind to each of you that day. It may sound corny, but it makes everyone feel good.
Serve a food again and again
. If your child rejects a new dish, dont give up hope. You may have to offer it another six, eight, or even 10 times before he eats it and decides he likes it.
Avoid food fights
. A healthy child instinctively knows how much to eat. If he refuses to finish whatever food is on his plate, just let it go. He wont starve.
Eat at least one meal as a family each day
. Sitting down at the table together is a relaxed way for everyone to connect a time to share happy news, talk about the day, or tell a silly joke. It also helps your kids develop healthy eating habits.
Let your kids place an order
. Once a week, allow your children to choose whats for dinner and cook it for them.
Say I love you whenever you feel it even if its 743 times a day
. You simply can not spoil a child with too many mushy words of affection and too many smooches. Not possible.
Keep in mind what grandmoms always say
. Children are not yours, they are only lent to you for a time. In those fleeting years, do your best to help them grow up to be good people.
Savor the moments
. Yes, parenthood is the most exhausting job on the planet. Yes, your house is a mess, the laundrys piled up, and the dog needs to be walked. But your kid just laughed. Enjoy it now it will be over far too fast.
Teach your baby to sign
. Just because a child cant talk doesnt mean there isnt lots that shed like to say. Simple signs can help you know what she needs and even how she feels well before she has the words to tell you a great way to reduce frustration.
Keep the tube in the family room
. Research has repeatedly shown that children with a TV in their bedroom weigh more, sleep less, and have lower grades and poorer social skills. P.S. Parents with a television in their bedroom have sex less often.
Get kids moving
. The latest research shows that brain development in young children may be linked to their activity level. Place your baby on her tummy several times during the day, let your toddler walk instead of ride in her stroller, and create opportunities for your older child to get plenty of exercise.
Get your kids vaccinated
. Outbreaks of measles and other diseases still occur in our country and throughout the world.
Protect that smile
. Encouraging your kid to brush twice a day with a dab of fluoride toothpaste will guard against cavities.
Be vigilant about safety
. Babyproof your home thoroughly, and never leave a child under 5 in the tub alone. Make sure car seats are installed correctly, and insist that your child wear a helmet when riding his bike or scooter.
Listen to the doc
. If your pediatrician thinks your kids fever is caused by a virus, dont push for antibiotics. The best medicine may be rest, lots of fluids, and a little TLC. Overprescribing antibiotics can cause medical problems for your child and increase the chances of creating superbugs that resist treatment.
Keep sunblock next to your kids toothpaste
. Apply it every day as part of the morning routine. Itll become as natural as brushing her teeth.
Put your baby to bed drowsy but still awake
. This helps your child learn to soothe himself to sleep and prevents bedtime problems down the line.
Know when to toilet train
. Look for these two signs that your child is ready to use the potty: He senses the urge to pee and poop (this is different from knowing that hes already gone), and he asks for a diaper change.
Avoid Comparisons and Labels
. You want to be the kind of parent who takes the time to instill in your child good manners, habits, and behavior. But how? And with controlled chaos ruling the day, every day, when? Relax: Good parenting happens in real time, on the spot, and in the moment. The trick is recognizing those moments when your actions and reactions can help your child learn and grow in the best possible ways. Heres help from top parenting experts and a few real moms.
Walk the Talk
. Kids watch your every move, and, especially for babies and very young children, parental behavior proves to be far more powerful than words. You are actually teaching your baby something every minute of the day whether you intend to pass along a lesson or not, says Elizabeth Pantley, author of The No-Cry Discipline Solution: Gentle Ways to Encourage Good Behavior Without Whining, Tantrums & Tears (McGraw-Hill). From how you handle stress to how you celebrate success to how you greet a neighbor on the street, your baby is observing you and finding out how to respond in various situations.
Julie Hughes, of Wilton, Connecticut, was touched when she observed her daughter Amelia, who was 23 months at the time, lovingly mothering her doll, after the birth of Amelias sister, Jane. I found Amelia with a pillow on her lap and her baby doll laid across it, pretending to nurse her, recalls Hughes, who was relieved that Amelia was learning about caring for others even without Hughes who was busy with three under the age of 4 consciously teaching that lesson. Just having your baby with you as you go through your days provides great opportunities to teach him about life, Pantley says.
Let Your Child Make Mistakes
. Your 2-year-old is building a tower, and you see that the block hes about to place on top will cause it to come crashing down. Anxious to avoid the crash (and ensuing tears), you stop him from adding the block, explaining that sometimes one more is one too many. While youre right to prevent accidents that could cause harm, allowing your child to learn from his errors instills the lesson at hand better than an explanation ever could, says Christopher Lucas, MD, an associate professor of child and adolescent psychiatry at the New York University School of Medicine, in New York City.
At a very basic level, this kind of mistake helps a child understand cause and effect. But its also more emotionally healthy to let your child experience disappointment sometimes especially in the form of a toppled block tower instead of shielding him from any and all negative events, Dr. Lucas adds. Similarly, when your baby is mastering how to use a sippy cup or your toddler is learning to dress himself, experts like Dr. Lucas encourage parents to let mistakes happen. Lillian Valentine Hope, mother of 18-month-old Lauren, remembers her daughters first attempts to drink water from a cup. The first time, she started gagging a little. My first impulse was to panic and grab it from her, says Hope, who lives in Brookfield, Connecticut. But I chose instead to say Its okay and Lets try it again! After a few rounds of trial and error and soaked shirts, she was successful. Dr. Lucas says theres good reason for this: Children learn best on the edge of failure thats where the challenge is and where theres the most opportunity for growth.
Reconsider Your Use of Food to Comfort or Praise
. Even the youngest baby will start to equate comfort with consuming if the bottle is always offered to quiet crying. So will the toddler who is habitually given apple juice after a fall or a cookie for good behavior, says Dr. Karp, who adds that what a child seeks and what is important to give is your attention, pure and simple.
Even very young children are wired for social relations, Dr. Karp explains. For them, parental attention is about more than just getting enough it means everything in the world to them. Your attaching a treat to the deal alters that perception. Youre demonstrating that an object or sweet has more merit and value than does a simple hug and a smile, says Dr. Karp, allowing that the occasional bending of this rule is to be forgiven. Sure, pull out the big guns when you really need them. Your child has a tantrum in the grocery store? By all means, offer her a cookie. And it will really work then, because you havent overused it.
Look Behind Bad Behavior
. At some point your child will break every rule you make. But if you react to each infraction with the same show of disapproval Mommys mad; hes in the time-out chair he may not reach an understanding of what prompted the rule-breaking behavior in the first place.
Simply put, your childs misbehavior is a direct result of the fact that he cannot control his emotions and it is one of parents most important tasks to teach their children how to do just that. Your child doesnt whine and have temper tantrums because he is trying to manipulate you. He isnt purposely being bad, says Pantley, who calls emotion-fueled outbursts on the part of very young children biologically, psychologically, and absolutely normal.
So while you may well impose the appropriate disciplinary measure (that time-out, for instance), a calm and compassionate conversation is important too. Ask your child questions, and provide suggestions, Pantley suggests: Your sister is crying because you took her bear. What will make her feel better? Do you think you can help her bear give her a hug?
Trust Your Gut
. Your intentions are good. In an effort to make the best choices for your child, you read up on how to impose just the right nap schedule, adhere to the appropriate amount of television viewing, and calibrate the best nutritional balance of protein, fats, and carbs. Trying to get it all right can be exhausting, and youre sometimes plagued with guilt that you havent lived up to these standards. Sound familiar? The truth is, there are a lot of experts out there and far too much advice, some of it conflicting. No one knows your child better than you do, says Gurian, who encourages parents to trust their own instincts. For example, do you sense intuitively that a baby music class will be difficult for your 10-month-old son, who wails when forced to sit still for even short periods? Then skip it. Ditto the reading-readiness software program that while loved by the neighbors 3-year-old is not a hit with your own. Your child may not enjoy instruction at the age of 3. She may get frustrated and turned off. Your gut may be telling you that shed get more out of doing something else with her time: playing, for example, says Gurian, who encourages parents to avoid the trap of opting for too much too soon out of an anxiety that their children will fall behind. And, good news: Theres a benefit for you, too, in taking this approach. When parents reclaim control over the decision-making process, they feel liberated, Gurian adds. They knew what to do; it was in their gut somewhere.
Be Ready to Embrace Change
. A baby who once loved an activity now rejects it. Parents can be quick to assume that somethings wrong when, in fact, it may be that hes matured. While measuring your childs outward signs of growth in inches and on the scale, remember that he is making strides on the inside too emotionally and cognitively. The parents role as their children evolve from infants to toddlers and beyond? To evolve right along with them.
Compliment your kid more
. Mom/blogger Jessica Abbot says a great way to make sure you acknowledge the things your kid is doing right is by putting three rubber bands on your arm at the start of the day, then taking one off every time you praise your kid. By the end of the day you should have taken off all the rubber bands
Stop yelling so much
. Similar to the Rubber Band Method is the Five Rings Method, which has you start the day with five rings on one arm. Every time you yell during the day you take off a ring. By drawing your attention to how many times you yell, you will learn to yell less.
Be more present with your kids
. Its easy to get distracted, but Love Play Learn has a number of strong suggestions for being more present, including setting aside 20-30 minutes per day when you focus on your kid 100%.
Take The Mom Challenge
. Its A Fabulous Life has outlined almost a years worth of wonderful weekly challenges that encourage you to do things like teach positivity to your kids.
Hug your kids longer
. The Happiness Project says that it takes at least six seconds to get oxytocin and serotonin aka the happy chemicals flowing. Do you hug your kids that long? Mom/Blogger Kelly Holmes found that by hugging her partner and kids longer, it made her more relaxed and better able to deal with parenting challenges.
Handle it better when your kid talks back
. Its important to understand why your kid is talking back in order to stop it. Find a list of reasons your kid might be talking back plus strategies to deal with it.
Choose your battles
. Are some of the things you and your kid fight over lower priority issues than others? If so, let the less important ones slide. This will make your kid much more likely to listen to you about the serious stuff.
Help your kid to become a better reader
. The printable seen above made by teacher Jodi Southard has a number of terrific questions parents can ask their kids during story time. Her website also has a similarly valuable printable for helping your kid with math.
Discipline without spanking
. One way is by making a Glittery Time Out Timer. When your kid acts up you shake the bottle bringing all of the glitter to the top, then set it down. Your kid must sit quietly until the glitter settles. This both punishes and calms your kid.
Parent your kid in an age appropriate way
. Sometimes we are harder on younger kids than their age warrants; other times we treat older kids like babies. Making it a priority to parent our children in an age-appropriate way is a key part of raising well-adjusted kids.
Keep your relationship alive
. Kids can put stress on a couple, but its important for both you and your kids that you keep your relationship healthy.
Stop fighting with your partner about discipline strategies
. When two parents have differing ideas on how best to discipline a kid, it can create a lot of conflict in the home.
Try to see the world from your kids perspective
. Parenting can sometimes feel like its us against them, but theres real value in seeing the world from your kids perspective.
Write down three things that went right every night
. A study by Martin Seligman found that people who wrote down three things that went well (and what caused them) before bed were happier even after just one week. This concept can be applied to parenting, too. Try ending your day by writing down three positive things that happened with your kid (along with the cause).
Never stop trying to learn and grow as a parent
. Take the advice you like and leave the rest, but never stop challenging yourself to be the best parent you can be.
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