Ideas to improve your life
Live every day on a fresh new start
. Dont be held back by what happened yesterday, the day before, the week before, the year before, and so on.
Be true to who you are
. Stop trying to please other people or be someone else. Its better to be an original version of yourself than an exact duplicate of someone else.
. Dont be like the howling dog, always howling and never doing anything. Stop complaining about your problems and work on them instead.
. Stop waiting for others around you to do something and take action yourself instead.
Rather than think
. Dont think about things you cant change namely what has happened and thoughts of other people or unhappy things because these are disempowering.Instead focus on the things you can action upon. Thats the most constructive thing you can do in any situation.
Focus on WHAT vs How
. Focus on WHAT you want first, before you think about HOW to do it. Anything is possible, as long as you set your mind, heart and soul to it.
Create your own opportunities
. You can wait for opportunities to drop in life. Or, you can go out there and create your own opportunities. The latter is definite and much more empowering.
Live more consciously each day
. Stop sleepwalking through life. Your life is something to be experienced, not coasted through.
Be committed to your growth
. In the Map of Consciousness, there are 17 levels of consciousness from Shame to Enlightenment. The higher level of consciousness you are in, the richer your life experience. Achieving higher consciousness comes from your commitment to growth.
Know your inner self
. This means knowing who you are and what you represent. Be clear of your personal identity.
Discover your life purpose
. Set the mission statement for your life; one that will drive you to life your life to the fullest.
Live in alignment with your purpose
. What can you start doing immediately that will let you live 100% in alignment with your purpose? How can you live true to your purpose within every context situation environment you are in, every second of the day.
Set your life commandments
. Define your personal commandments to live your best life. What adages and principles do you want to follow in your life.
Discover your values
. Values are the essence of what makes you, you. Read article 11 Discover Your Values in Personal Excellence Book Volume 1 on the importance of values, my values and how you can create your own.
Hold yourself to the highest conduct
. Every one of us have our own set of ethics, principles and moral codes. Live true to them every day. Also, live in full alignment with your purpose 11 , commandments 13 and values 14 .
Design your ideal life
. What is your ideal life? Design it. First, assess your life at the moment via the life wheel. Then, ask yourself what it takes to live a 10 10 life in all 10 areas career, health, love, social, etc . What is the life that will make you the best person you can ever be? Set your BHAGs big, hairy and audacious goals! There are no limits in life only those you set for yourself!
Stop putting life on hold
. Are you putting any parts of your life on hold? What is one area of your life you have been putting off avoiding denying? Uncover it and start working on it.
Create your life handbook
. Your life handbook is your life long personal manual to live your best life from your mission statement, your values, your long term goals, short term goals, personal strengths, blind spots to address, plans, among others. Create your book first then build on from there.
Set your goals
. After you design your ideal life, set your 5 year, 3 year and 1 year goals. The more specific your goals, the better! Read the 10 principles on how to get winning goals.
Take action on your goals and dreams
. Create an action plan with your strategy, plan and immediate next steps. ESPER 7 part Goal Achievement series is a great tool to get you started.
Create your bucket list
. I things to do before you die. Then, get out to achieve them.
Dont do things for the sake of doing them
. Always evaluate what youre doing and only do it if there is meaning behind them. Dont be afraid to quit the things that dont serve your path.
Do the things you love
. Because life is too precious to spend it doing anything else. If you dont enjoy something, then dont do it. Spend your time and energy on things that bring you fulfillment and happiness.
Discover your passion in life
. What sets you on fire? Go out there and explore inward to know what you love to do.
Make your passion a full fledged career
. Then, start pursuing it. Stop working in a job you are passionless toward. Quit your job when you are ready to do it full time.
Turn your passion into a huge success
. Turn your passion into a multi million dollar business. Better yet, make it a multi billion dollar one.
Learn from criticism
. Be open to criticism but dont be affected by it. Criticism is meant to help you be a better person. Learn from it.
. Is the glass half empty or half full? How about neither? Its actually all full the bottom half is water, the top half is air. Its all a matter of perception. Take on empowering perceptions, not those that bind you. If you can see the positive sides of every thing, youll be able to live a much richer life than others. Purge unnecessary negativity from your life.
Dont badmouth other people
. If theres anything you dont like about someone, say it to him her in the face otherwise, dont say it at all. Its not nice to do that.
. If everyone only see life from his her own perspective, well forever be close minded and insular. See things from others shoes.
Be a compassionate person
. Show compassion and kindness to everyone around you.
Develop 100 percent self belief
. Believe in yourself and your abilities. Remove your limiting beliefs and replace them with empowering ones In Days 26 27 of Be a Better Me in 30 Days Program, you identify your limiting beliefs and replace them with empowering ones . If you dont believe in yourself, how can you expect others to believe in you.
Let go of unhappy past
. This means past grievances, heartbreaks, sadness, disappointments, etc.
. who may have done you wrong in the past. To forgive is to set a prisoner free and realize it was you.
Let go of attachments
. Dont fixate yourself with a certain status, fame, wealth or material possessions. These are impermanent and will ultimately disappear one day when you die. Focus on growing and living life to the fullest instead.
Let go of relationships that do not serve you
. That means negative people, dishonest people, people who dont respect you, people are overly critical and relationships that prevent you from growing.
Spend more time with people who enable you
. Hang out with people who you compatible with, like minded people, people who are positive, successful, strong achievers and positive for your growth. You are after all the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.
Build genuine authentic connections
. With people around you strangers, friends, family, colleagues, business partners, customers clients, etc. Spend more time to know them better and foster stronger connections.
Connect with an old friend
. There is no end to the number of friends you can have. Reach out to people from the past.
Do a kind deed a day
. What is something you can do today that will make the world a better place? Go and do it.
Help other people who are in need
. Voluntarism is one outlet. You can also start with your friends and family.
Help people when they least expect it
. You dont need any reason to help others. Do it because you want to. Share the love with everyone.
Review your life
. Set a weekly review session to assess how you are doing for your goals and your life. Review your purpose once every 3 6 months too so you know youre on the right path.
. Procrastination is a huge waste of your time and your life . Get rid of it once and for all.
30 minutes a day
. Set aside at least 30 minutes every day to work on a quadrant 2 goal that, when you achieve it, will bring about the biggest source of fulfillment and happiness in your life.
Make deeper connections
. Beyond making new friends, aim to make deeper connections out of them. Read How To Have More Best Friends in Life.
Be your advisor
. Imagine youre the future you, 5 years later. How would you advise yourself? Write it down. Now, apply them. Check out Future Prediction Exercise article in Personal Excellence Book Volume 1 , which teaches you to predict your future, then learn from it.
Write a letter to your future self
. Actually, write 3 letters for yourself in 1, 3 and 5 years. The longer the letters, the better. Envision how youll be like in the future. Make each letter a minimum 2 pages long. Now, seal them and put them in a safe place. Set it in your calendar so youll know to open them when its time. This will inspire you to work your hardest and achieve your maximum results in the time period.
. Start from your computer, then your table, your room, your bag wallet, and your home. The more you throw the unwanted and old stuff away, the more room youre creating for new things to enter.
. There is something to learn from everything you see, hear and experience. This includes your mistakes and past misshaps if any . Learn to interpret each event objectively. Focus on what you can learn from it so you can apply them moving forward.
Keep developing yourself
. Equip yourself with a huge breadth of knowledge. Learn different skills, pick up different hobbies, study different fields.
Keep upgrading yourself
. Equip yourself with a huge depth of knowledge. While you can usually only level up to 99 in video games, in real life you can level up to infinity. Go for further studies if need be. Develop your skills. Level up. Build your 10,000 hours in each skill.
Try new things
. Whats something youd normally not do? Get out of your comfort zone try something different. It can be something simple like taking a new bus route, trying a new food item, picking up a new hobby, or something bigger like studying a different field, picking a new skill, traveling to a country youll never visit, etc. You set your own limits.
Get yourself out there
. This applies for everything. a Get out there geographically. Go out, travel and explore the world. Set sail into the sea. Go backpacking by yourself and visit as many countries as possible. Get on a road trip and visit the different places that come out. B Get out there situationally. Stop sticking to routines and comfort zones. Try something different. c Get out there in life. Stop watching TV and living vicariously through the TV characters. Go and live the life of your dreams.
Be the absolute best in what you do
. Go for the 1 position in what you do. If you want to spend your time doing something, you might as well be the best in it. Strive for the best you dont deserve anything lesser than that.
. In the same lines as #58, dont settle for less. Dont settle for someone you dont like as your partner. Dont settle for a job you dont like #25 . Dont settle for friends who make you feel like a lesser person #37 . Dont settle for a weight you are unhappy with. Go for what you really want.
. What are you doing now? How can you achieve more? Set bigger goals. Explore your limits and break them.
Embrace new ideas
. Dont mentally limit yourself; Let your mind be a breeding ground for new ideas. Read 25 Brainstorming Techniques.
Create your inspirational haven
. Turn your room into a place you love. Do the same for your work desk. Get rid of things that make you unproductive. Surround it with things that inspire you and trigger you to action.
Behave as your ideal self will
. All of us have an ideal vision of who we want to be. How is your ideal self like? How can you start to be that ideal self now?
Set your role models in life
. With role models, you become much better than you can be by yourself. I personally am inspired by Tyra Banks for her passion for helping women build their self esteem and changing notions of beauty , Ivanka Trump for her success, intellect and beauty , Donald Trump for his success and drive in life , Oprah for being who she is , Lady Gaga for her talent and not being afraid to be different , and many more. Seeing them and what they do reminds me of what I can be and what I can do, so they drive me on to greater heights.
Get mentors and or coaches
. Theres no faster way to improve than to have someone work with you on your goals. Not only will they drive you to achieve more for yourself, theyll also share with you important advice which you can use to create even more success for yourself. Many of my clients approach me to coach them and the net result they achieve significantly more progress and results in their life than if they had worked alone.
Uncover your blind spots
. The more you uncover, the more you grow, the better you become.
Increase your consciousness
. The more conscious you are, the more evolved you become.
Ask for feedback
. As much as we try to uncover our blind spots #66 , there will be areas we cannot identify. Asking for feedback gives us an additional perspective. Some people to approach will be friends, family, colleagues, boss, or even acquaintances, since they will have no preset bias and can give their feedback objectively. Day 17 of Be a Better Me in 30 Days Program Get Feedback From Others is about getting feedback from others so as to uncover our blind spots.
Generate passive income
. Generate passive income. Create passive income streams so your income is not tied to the time you spend on your work. Of course youll still continue to work, but only because you want to and not because you have to.
Help others live their best lives
. There is no better way to grow than to help others grow. Ultimately, the world is one. We are all in this together.
Improve the world
. There are many things in the world that need your attention and help. Poverty. Disaster recovery. Illiteracy. Children in need. Depleting rainforests. Animal rescue. Endangered species. How can you do your part.
Give more value than you receive
. There is so much unspeakable joy that comes from giving. And when you keep giving, youll find that you actually receive a lot more in return, in spades.
Be big picture focus
. You can either set your eyes on the big things or get hung up by the nitty gritty details. The former will help you get a lot more out of life than the latter. Focus on the big rocks in life and put first things first Quadrant 2 tasks . Practice the 80 20 rule focus on the 20% things that give you the 80% fulfillment in life.
Be clear of your end objective
. What is the end goal you seek? Is what youre doing bringing you there? If not, put it aside. As long as you keep taking on things that meet your end goal, youll eventually reach there.
Go the 80 20 route
. For every goal you have, there are different paths to achieve it. Pick out the 80 20 path, i.e. the most effective path that brings you there the fastest with least amount of effort.
. As you embark on the 80 20 path for your goals, focus on the important tasks and cut out the less important ones. That means do the 20% actions that give you the 80% results.
Live in the moment
. Are your thoughts wandering around all the time? Calm your mind down. Be present. The only time youre ever living is in this moment. Meditation helps to remove mental clutter.
Relish in the little moments
. Snuggling under warm covers on a rainy day. Ice cream on a hot day. A kiss with your loved one. Being with your best friend. A walk by the park. The breeze on your face. Quiet, alone time. Watching the sun rise set. Soak in all these little moments of life. They are what make up your life.
Take a break
. Being the best also requires you to take breaks when needed. Make sure you rest when needed. Doing so lets you walk the longer mile ahead.
Stop wanting things a certain way
. I wrote a 3 part series before on the downsides of perfectionism and how to overcome them. Be firm on your end goals your objective goals and your ideals, but let go of the fixation that things have to be a certain way. Youll realize its by doing that that you achieve what you want.
Focus on creation
. Think about what you can bring to the world, and create that.
The only person you can change is yourself
. Stop expecting others to behave in a certain way. Rather than demand that others around you change, focus on changing yourself. Youll be happier and live a more fulfilling life this way.
. Be grateful for everything you have today, and everything you will get in the future.
. Let the people whove touched you know of your gratitude toward them. Youll be surprised what a little act like this can do. If you dont tell them, theyll never know.
Let loose and have fun
. Sing at the top of your lungs. Dance in the rain. D Run barefoot and feel the ground underneath your feet. Release of your self imposed shackles and be free.
Get into nature
. Many of us live in concrete jungles. Soak in the beauty of nature.
You have a choice
. Recognize you always have a choice in how to live your life.
. Are you reading this with a straight face? Smile and have fun.
. The only thing thats constant is change. Change means growth. Rather than resist change, learn to versatile such that you can make the best out of the changes that come. In fact, become an agent of change.
Be more risk inclined
. Dont be afraid to take risks. The bigger your risks, the bigger your return.
. The more mistakes you make, the faster you learn. Make sure to draw lessons so you can build on them.
. Many people try to avoid feeling disappointed. They develop a resistant relationship with disappointment. However, disappointment is part and parcel of being human it reflects your real passions. Dont resist it instead, embrace it. Understand it, then channel into it to create more in life.
Challenge your fears
. All of us have fears. Fear of uncertainty, fear of public speaking, fear of risk All our fears keep us in the same position and prevent us from growing. Rather than avoid your fears, recognize they are the compass for growth.
Maximize your mind
. Living your best life requires you to maximize yourself mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually. If youre highly successful, very materially abundant, have a big circle of friends, very spiritually aware but you neglect your physical health, thats not living your life to the fullest. The same for other scenarios where a part of you is blocked off. Maximize all 4 aspects of you.
Be your best self
. Essentially all the articles here at Personal Excellence are about being your best self and achieving your highest potential. Its only through being the best we can be that we live our life to the fullest. This is why the motto of the site is Be your best self, Live your best life.
. You are the person you have to live with for the rest with your life. Treasure and love yourself.
. Be grateful for all the people around you because they help you to grow. They enrich your life experience. Without them, your life would not have been the same.
Last but not least
. I always find living to be a fascinating experience. How were all on earth, with millions of species, 30,000 different life forms, over 7 billion people, and all thriving in its own way, existing, co existing and in co creation mode. Theres so much we dont know out there, so much to be experienced in life, that its just wonderful.
. It might sound obvious, but when you really allow yourself to listen and ask questions about what your partner says, it not only leads to better conversations, but also better communication.
Take a few days apart
. Missing each other is a great way to reconnect. Try grabbing some girlfriends for an overnight or a weekend getaway every few months.
Find a support team
. Have a handful of great friends or family members you can call so your significant other doesnt have to hear every small grievance going on your life.
Put away your phones
. One of the biggest relationship tips is to give your undivided attention when your partner is speaking. Its is one of the most important things you can do.
. Giving back is a great way to keep perspective of how great your relationship is, and how lucky you both are.
Take a class
. Its proven that couples who learn together connect deeper. Find some common ground cooking? art? science? and go from there.